Dear Mature Love
I arrived here from South Africa after the death of my husband. We had been together 34 years so I felt very lonely in the uk. Found it difficult to make friends. Couldn't just walk into a pub alone and strike up a conversation with a complete stranger.
I decided after 17 months alone to try and find a friend who would eventually become something more.
I decided to go one line and look for holidays for single people. As I thought this would mean That I would be with like minded people. Singles
Searching on google I came upon a site mature love uk. Unknowingly to me this was not a holiday site but a dating site. I browsed through the site and decided to spend a couple of days just looking. The thought of dating again was terrifying. At the age of 57 I was very unsure of what to do. Or what to say. Or how to go about it.
3 days went passed and I had a huge amount of people viewing my profile. I think it was in the range of over 300. Heavens this was scary. I wasn't even sure if this was what I wanted. I just knew I was terribly lonely. Ok I said let's do it what have I got to loose. I went in and decided that I would only respond to messages that were sent to me. I would only respond if a photo was available, I modified my searches to area and age. I registered in order to be able to read the numerous messages. I chatted with three guys I had chosen after reading their profiles viewing their photos and basically being quite cautious.
One seemed to stand out. My daughter reminding me constantly don't give too much information away. I am sure she had visions of me being abducted or something. Hardly at my age. He invited me for coffee so I suggested a local shopping mall lots of people. If I didn't enjoy the date I could always say I had shopping to do and make a quick getaway. From his profile I could see he grew up in the same area as my late husband so I asked what school he went to and it was the same school. Couldn't believe it. Asked what year he was in the same year as my husband. Told him where I grew up and he said he also grew up there. I asked what street he told me. It was the same street as mine. Asked what number. He told me 22 I grew up at 17. Who was this? I must know him. I was typing so fast as I obviously knew this person. I mentioned a few neighbours from my childhood he knew them all. This was fun we suddenly had so much in common. His neighbours daughter happened to be my best friend. His sister still lives in the same street 3 doors away from my father. And I had spoken to her a number of times since my return from SA. What a very small world.
The first date didn't seem half as scary as previously envisaged. Instead of the shopping mall we decided on a little country pub in between both of our homes. What a date. I arrived feeling like a 16 year old. Butterflies anticipation excited scared oh golly fifty different emotions in one day. He told me what car he drove. I told him my car. I mentioned he would have to meet me in the car park. I wasn't walking into a pub alone. So I pulled up in my car saw his car he immediately got out and came walking towards me. My heart was beating so fast I thought It would burst. We went into the pub which was great. We sat on a big leather couch and chatted for five hours. I couldn't believe where the time had gone. I did stipulate that I wanted to take things slowly as this was all new for me. Walked out if the pub and oh the kiss. Well I decided I would give a little peck on the cheek as I was a little scared. He responded. We smiled and made plans to see each other the next day. We then spent six days out of seven together. The first real kiss was beautiful. And it's only gotten better since then. I feel as though we have been together forever but it's only 5 and a half weeks. He is exactly what I was looking for. In many ways I feel as though he is my soul mate as we have so much in common. I can honestly say he swept me off my feet and I am enjoying the ride.
After two and a half weeks we were discussing school friends. He mentioned someone he knew. I was sure this was a friend of my late husbands. I went into Facebook found the friend opened his photos and there was a picture of my late husband looking over his shoulder, the picture next to it was of my new partner how weird was that. We both smiled knowing that this is destiny or fait just what's meant to be. I can't remember the last time I was this happy. Thank you to Mature Love UK. Even at the mature age of 57 I feel as though life is worth living again. I am head over heels in love with my new partner and as he says "ditto". It's mutual. We're enjoying each day together so don't be afraid to give it a try. It's worked for us so it could work for you.
Remember life is for living and it's too short to spend time alone.
Many thanks
Janice.